Seeking Clarity: Navigating the Art of Communication

The ambiguity of misunderstanding invites a clarification that is worthy of exploration. If you find yourself unsure, simply ask the question that seeks to bring clarity. Clarification questions are honest attempts to understand where the other person is coming from, what they are trying to convey, what they hope you comprehend, and what you are truly grasping.

Communication challenges are among the most difficult and significant issues contributing to ongoing interpersonal conflicts. One of the earliest stories in conventional scriptures, the Tower of Babel, highlights how communication problems can initiate tumultuous human affairs. Often, people say one thing but mean another, while others receive something entirely different from what was intended.

The ego, defense mechanisms, and perceptual filters are quick to jump to conclusions, fall into cognitive distortions, or contort authentic communication attempts. Hidden within the human mind are unknown variables and implicit biases that interfere with effective verbal and nonverbal communication.

When in doubt, simply ask. There are no inherently difficult questions; often, it is the delivery that makes all the difference. Emotional intelligence plays a role in understanding the sensitivity that the other party may struggle to manage, but ultimately, one is not responsible for how the other person responds. You are accountable for how you communicate effectively and how you respond.

The inquisitive nature of humanity seeks understanding. If we are genuinely curious, it is best to show that, despite any shortcomings in method, the intention is admirable, and the outcomes may align with our best efforts.

(c)2024 John Piedrahita